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15 Ideas to Help Protect your Children when they use the Internet

Violence, sex, nudity, and explicit language, pornography, online gambling, online predators, viruses, spyware, and adware; these are some of the threats that your kids can encounter while using the internet. And since you can't monitor them all the time, you need to find ways to protect your kids from these threats. Here are some of those ways:

1.    Teach them to stay secure. Talk to them about personal security while using the internet. Tell them to refuse giving any personal information to people they meet online. Avoid filling out membership and survey forms that would entail them to state their personal information.

2.    Place your computer in a place where you can monitor your kids' use of the internet and not in their bedroom.

3.    Set up house rules to limit your kids' internet access.

4.    Keep your kids' computer account "limited. This will keep you in control over the significant access to the computer.

5.    Discourage them from making personal profiles using online networking websites that can be viewed by anyone. Sites like MySpace create venues for online predators to access different personal information for their predatory purposes. If your kids already have profiles posted on the web, make sure that you know what pictures and personal information they post. Also, view their personal blogs.

6.    If your kids are young enough to use the regular web browser, download web-browsers that are made for kids. They filter bad websites and limit your kids' access to pre-approved webpages.

7.    Tell them to avoid peer-to-peer file-sharing softwares. This is because viruses, spyware, and adware can freely enter your computer through these softwares.

8.    Use internet filtering software to block bad websites from your computer.

9.    Use internet monitoring software to secretly track the activity of your kids from websites visited, chat rooms entered, downloads, conversation, and IMs.

10.    Attend to your kids immediately if they report any uncomfortable online exchanges they have encountered.

11.    Share a common email address so that you can monitor their messages.

12.    If they use instant messaging, make sure that you know who are on their list.

13.    If they enter chat rooms, tell them to stay in the public room so that the chat room administrator can monitor your conversation. Tell them to ignore private messages.

14.    Tell them not to meet personally with strangers they only met online.

15.    And, teach them to approach you whenever they have any doubts on the emails and messages they receive, window popups that appears, and forms they were asked to fill-out.

Many of these ideas are simple by themselves, but the main point behind all of these ideas is communication.  Almost every idea is a talk about, teach, and prepare children to use the internet properly and as parents we have the ability to help our children be save.  Talk about it with your children.  I have never heard a parent say "boy that talk about internet(or anything else) safety was a waist of time."  You will be better for it!

Why Keep a Postitive Attitude

You surely have heard about "positive thinking", but why bother? Is there any reason you should make the effort to retain only positive thoughts? This article shares some ideas why you may in fact want to make this effort.

Higher Productivity

Maintaining a positive attitude may lead to higher productivity, whether in your career or personal life. When you are negative, you tend to give up more easily, get frustrated, get easily distracted, and drag your feet. A simple thing such as how you think can make a world of difference. W. Clement Stone spoke of this when he said "There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude.The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.". Whether you want higher productivity is up to you, however consider the cause and effect of your attitude. Zig Ziglar also spoke of this when he said "Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.".

Better Relationships

Who wants to be around a negative person? Do you? When you are negative, you are sending out signals to others to stay away from you, unless perhaps they are also negative and seek a similar mindset. Do you want to attract negative people, or positive people? Ken Keyes Jr. touched on the reality of this when he said "A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world; everyone you meet is your mirror." Your attitude affects both personal relationships, and career relationships. While the impact of your attitude in a personal relationship is perhaps more obvious, in the workplace it's often less obvious. It's the relationships, trust, and rapport you build with others which contribute greatly to advancement opportunities, and should not be overlooked.

Better Health

Both modern medical providers and ancient practitioners have said that your attitude can affect your health. Your body takes queues from your mind, and negative thoughts can be disruptive to your internal body processes. Handling stress is a key challenge for us, to avoid stress-induced illnesses. The reverse is also true that having good health will contribute towards a positive attitude, so take care of your body! A holistic approach is to focus on your mind and body together, ensuring you are eating well and getting exercise.

Happiness

Happiness is perhaps one of the most important things of all, what good are the other things above if you aren't happy? Financial success doesn't necessarily equate to happiness, many wealthy people are quite unhappy. Happiness is really a state of mind, and we have complete control of our own minds. Unfortunately, many leave their thoughts and emotions on "autopilot", never deciding for themselves how they want to think. Maintaining a positive attitude equates to a decision to be happy, it's your choice! Buddha summarized how to remain happy no matter how bad things may seem when he said "Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful.". It's also important to not miss the things that truly make us happy, which is not typically money, but often little things we take for granted. As Robert Brault said, "Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.".

Spiritual Growth

If you believe in a creator, or practice a religious belief, then you may also believe that remaining positive is part of a spiritual growth path. Many religions teach this basic premise, that we should remain positive and trust in our creator no matter how bad things may seem. Even if you don't have spiritual beliefs, perhaps you feel something within your conscience that urges you to be positive, and thus have a positive impact on others in your life. Being positive makes others feel good, which is rewarding in itself.

You Are Your Thoughts

What are you but your thoughts? Mahatma Gandhi said "A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes." What do you want to be? Your thoughts have more impact than you realize, and define who you are, how others react to you, what comes into your life, and how you will be remembered when you are no longer here. What type of person do you want to be? Make sure your thoughts and attitudes support your definition of yourself!

How to Do It

How to maintain a positive attitude is a subject for a different article as there are many methods to achieve it. However, deciding you WANT to do this is a key first step, and can lead you towards pursuing methods which work for you. A good second step is to begin to simply recognize when you are not feeling positive, and pause to reflect on whether you want to CHOOSE to feel that way or not. Getting your mind out of autopilot puts you back into control, which is fundamental to changing your attitude.

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Be Happy Now

Are you still waiting for your circumstances to change before you’ll allow yourself to be happy?  Most of us have preconceived ideas of what would make us happy, and we refuse to be satisfied until those things happen.

The problem is that even once specific things happen in our lives, we’re rarely satisfied with them!  Instead, we shift our focus to something even bigger and better, believing “it” will make us happy (or happier).  We never allow ourselves to reach a point of contentment.  Have you done the same thing to yourself?

The good news is that you can decide to be happy NOW – even if not everything in your life is perfect.  Below you’ll find 3 easy ways to do so:

1)    Be grateful.  Gratitude is one of the most powerful states of mind that you can adopt.  Not only does it make you feel good, it shifts your focus from what you don’t have to what you DO have, and keeps it there!  As you focus more on what you are grateful to have in your life (even the really small blessings!), you worry less about anything that may be lacking.  The result?  A more pervasive sense of happiness!

2)    Take time to smell the roses.  If you spend most of your days feeling rushed and scattered, it’s hard to feel happy and content.  In order to be truly happy, you need to make time for yourself to relax, dream, and take pleasure in life’s simpler moments.  Beginning today, make sure to spend time doing things you love on a regular basis.  Read books that stimulate your imagination; listen to great music; take long walks, and generally make an effort to enjoy your life as it is right now.

3)    Love the journey.  Many of us make the mistake of pinning all of our expectations on some vague, far-off result, like the completion of goals.  We believe that once we “get there” everything will be perfect and we’ll finally be happy.  However, there is much to be gained from enjoying the journey TO your destination!  Make it your mission to revel in every moment that you’re working toward higher goals.  Enjoy the sense of self-mastery and accomplishment you gain with every goal you achieve.  Make it a worthwhile journey and you’ll savor the end result that much more!

Just some things to think about as you are going about you life and hopefully these articles are helpful for you.  Our goal is to help everyone have a better life and hope that others will contribute.  Please feel free to comment on any of the articles if you want to add to any or make suggestions please fill free.

Acts of Kindness Benefit Everyone

Do you really want to be happy? Everyone says yes, but the gateway to happiness makes some of us frown. The gateway to happiness, is giving to others. Think about this: "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." - The Dalai Lama

Some of us may feel that, if we give too much, our generosity, will be taken advantage of by others. This is true, and a few very selfish individuals can possibly perceive your good intentions as weakness.

However, people who seek to take advantage are in the minority. To quote Gandhi, "We must be the change, we wish to see in the world." Think about it, change has to start somewhere, so why not start with you and me, right now?

You can donate anything randomly, without seeking reward, and anonymously, without telling anyone. This is good for you, the universe, and those who receive your acts of kindness. Every time you give, you will receive – even, if you are not looking for a reward.

Try it, and you will see, what some call, “karma,” the law of cause and effect. It works like this: For every action there is a reaction. Let’s make sure the reactions to our actions are good ones.

Danny Thomas said, "All of us are born for a reason, but all of us don't discover why. Success in life has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It's what you do for others."

Share everything and you will achieve a legacy of kindness. Share nothing and people will, do their best, to forget you. When my life is over I will only leave memories, in the minds of others, and I want them all to be good ones.

So, how much should you give? It can start with, “heart felt”, kind words, a note, a card, or a flower. You will find that your gifts or donations won’t make you poor. As a result of this, you will see most people, naturally, return kindness to you.

You should also take the time to be polite to all of the people who perform services for you, every day. Many people do not bother to say hello to the maid, janitor, parking attendant, or service clerk.

Once you do, you may even learn their name, and you would be surprised how many of them will go out of their way to give you good service, just by addressing them by their first name.

If you establish sincerity and trust where ever you go, you will be loved by your fellow man. It is really that simple. As Mohammed said, "A person's true wealth is the good he or she does in the world."

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Soccer a General History

If you want to understand the history of soccer, you have to admit that for some reason, humans have a natural urge to kick things. Whether it’s to release frustration, or simply for fun, we do this even without noticing.

How many times have you not walked on the street as a kid (and not only), simply kicking that pebble or cone on the ground in front of you out of boredom. It’s this natural urge that stands at the basis of the history of soccer.

– When was soccer invented?

When speaking about the history of soccer a lot of people regard England as the place that soccer was born. Although this could be a true statement in a particular context, the truth is that the English were the first to organize soccer around 1863. However they did not “invent” it per say. So if 1863 is the year the sport got “baptized”, then what year was soccer invented and where?

Since soccer or soccer-like sports can be traced way back to ancient times, it’s difficult to pin-point a specific year. Historians of the phenomenon usually chop it down into 3 periods of time.

– History of soccer during ancient times

They might not have had our modern commodities, but ancient people sure knew how to have their fun. And, you guessed, kicking a “ball” around (obviously, the balls were extremely rudimentary compared to what is used today) was considered a fun activity in many areas all around the globe. Most of them developing at the same time, without interaction from one another.

In history of soccer the first written statement regarding the start of soccer comes from a Chinese military manual at around 300 BC. Which describes a practice called “cuju” that involved the players kicking a leather ball through a hole in a silk cloth stretched between two poles. On the other side of the globe, in the Americas, the Aztecs were playing a similar sport. Although some compare it to basketball more than soccer.

The purpose of the game was to kick the ball through a small stone circle that was placed high up on the arena’s walls. Hence the relation to basketball.

Now I don’t know about you, but to me it sounds a lot more difficult to place a small leather ball exactly in the middle of a stone circle that’s well high above your head with your foot, than striking a modern “high-tech” ball in an 8 yard goal.

– History of soccer during the Middle Ages

We usually think of the medieval era as a time when war was viewed as a necessity and a “job” rather than a calamity. Despite being quite a serious, “dark” period of time, somehow the medieval people managed to take some time for some sports, including soccer.

The forms of soccer played during this time were obviously incomparable to our current definition of the sport; hence they are usually classified as “mob soccer”.

While their dads were off at war, children would often grab a patched up leather ball, hit the nearby field and start a “war” on the field. The lack of rules often lead to fights and serious injuries and the sport was regarded as dangerous in many locations.

A clear example of this can be found in the London British Museum, where an engraving shows a group of men struggling to win a leather ball, with a second image showing a man with a broken arm. You do the math.

– Modern-day soccer

As mentioned above, although we don’t know when soccer was invented, we do know when it was organized as a sport under a clear set of rules. Being a popular practice in England, soccer was played chaotically and oftentimes it would lead to the same on and off-pitch battles similar to the ones occurring during medieval soccer matches. On each match, the two teams would agree on a particular set of rules, but with the lack of a referee arguments would often spark up.

In order to keep things in order, a few English clubs met in London on October 26, 1863 in order to create a set of well-defined and universal rules for the game.

The Football Association was born and although their set of rules did not apply to all clubs immediately, in a few decades, as soccer clubs switched from amateurism to professionalism, their laws and conduct restrictions became standard for everyone.

As you can see, there’s really no “right” way to answer the “When was soccer invented?” question. You’ll have your fair share of arguments at hand regardless of what period you believe was the spark that caused the wildfire that soccer is today.

And you’ll probably agree with me on this: it’s not really that important to know when soccer was invented. But rather acknowledge that we are lucky to be able to enjoy this wonderful sport at its best, as we can in modern times.

3 Different Ideas to Goals

Many of you have heard of the SMART or SMARTER goals.  These are wonderful acronym phrases for you know what a goal should be.  I enjoy these acronyms and think that they are wonderful, but I will take just a few moments and explain 3 simple helps with goals. (If you want the longer version to this article then click here J the added portions will be in another color.)

First, the goal you set has to be something you really desire and I mean really desire.   When you set goals you tell others so that they can help you.  This helps you decide if the goal is something you really desire or not.

Deciding what you want to achieve can be really hard at times!  As you think about goals and what you want there are always people to help you and help you get started.  You just have to want it bad enough to share so you can have help and correction.  If you are not willing to have others correct or encourage you then what you want is not worth it to you.  Simply change to a different goal.

Second is this goal has to be woven into your life!  Written down, talked about, and worked on.  Goals that are set do no good when you don’t do something every day for it!

I have found that when it comes to weaving goals in my life it is best, have it written down and to have statements about the goal everywhere, affirmation statements if you will.  For example, if my goal is to exercise every day I will not only have that written down someplace where I can see but I will post post-it notes everywhere saying things like “Exercise makes me feel good about myself”  “Exercise makes me a healthier person” or “I love exercising.” These are simple statements but you see them enough and work towards them you will have a new desire to exercise.

Third part is there should always be room for adjustment.  Just because you set a goal and want it doesn’t mean that it is set in stone.  Make sure you can correct if the path is not the right one.  Fight for your goal but don’t be unreasonable!

I have set many goals that I have been told were unreasonable or out of reach.  I decided when making those goals that there was more to this goal than just reaching the end.  As I worked and worked and worked I found that I was not going to be able to reach some of these goals.  But as I thought about it I found that the goal made me reach higher than I ever would have had I not set them.  I am not saying go out and set goals that are all unachievable. When you want to have an adventure into someplace new or unfamiliar then set a goal and go for it.  This will be the only way you can get enough knowledge about it to set better goals the next time around.

Goals are amazing and they really do make people grow and build better relationships with others as we all work together to become better and reach new heights!  Good luck with the New Year and goals that you have set!